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Dec 06, 2011 | Post by: regangossett No Comments

You Get What You Tolerate

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In my nearly eleven years of facilitating CEO roundtables under the banner of TEC and Vistage there were some patterns we observed that turned up again and again.  One is especially valuable for leaders to understand.

The members of the group acted as an advisory board for one another, trusted confidants with whom all topics were open and for whom direct and valuable feedback was always available.  Often, a topic brought to the group centered on the behavior of a group member’s direct report and how that behavior was somehow not okay.  Sometimes it was about under-performing.  Sometimes it was about disruptive behavior. The advice sought was usually some form of, “What do you think I should do?”

We nearly always had a wealth of “been there, done that” in the room, so there was rarely a shortage of opinions.  Fortunately, though, our format for dealing with group member issues called for asking questions – seeking first to understand – before any comments were offered.  That ensured that the presenter of an issue received the most valuable feedback.

In any relationship, if there is a problem, each party owns a piece of it.  The pieces may not be of equal size or importance, but everyone has some responsibility.  That’s why I trained my group members to ask issue presenters this important question: “What is your part in this situation?”

That may seem to be an odd question and it often elicited a deer-in-the-headlights expression from the issue presenter.  What is most interesting is that every time one of the answers was some variation of, “I tolerate that behavior.”

The behavior you tolerate is always the behavior you get as a leader, so if you’re getting behavior that is other than what you want, start with a self-assessment before any whining is attempted.  You’ll likely find what my CEO’s consistently found and you’ll probably know just what to do.


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